Sky-N-Sun - Marriage

The Successful Marriage - Husbands

Husbands, you are given the authority within your home. From early on in Genesis, God says that the husband shall rule the home. Being "politically corect", many try and distort this basic principle, but it really is quite simple. The husband is to be the head of the wife and the home.

Gen 3:16 Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire [shall be] to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.

Eph 5:23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.

Now that is NOT to say that the husband can or should play the overbearing tyrant, on the contrary, God says it is vital within the marriage, for the husband to be loving and kind; considerate of the wife's opinions and feelings. In our own home, I have the final say on matters but I also have the full weight of the responsibility of my decisions. The thoughts and opinions my wife has on any issue are not discounted, though I may or may not follow her opinion. When an issue arrises, we sit down and talk about it. I welcome her thoughts and opinions; encourage her to voice her feelings on the issue and why she see's it as she does. When I make the final decision, her thoughts on the matter are always a consideration. If my decision is contrary to her own opinion, I explain to her why my position is what it is; trying to help her understand what factors I have considered in coming to the decision.

Eph 5:33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife [see] that she reverence [her] husband.

1Cr 7:3 Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.

Col 3:19 Husbands, love [your] wives, and be not bitter against them.

Husbands, your's is the greater responsibility. Not only must you be conscious of your own personal relationship with God, but also, you are given the weight of the responsibility for your wife. I love my wife dearly. To hurt her or embarass her causes me physical, as well as, emotional pain but whether we are in public or private, if she makes a statement and I beleive her to be in the wrong, to say nothing means we will both he held responsible for it. But if, at the time of it's occurance, I correct her (any idea how UN-popular it might be to correct your wife in public ? *grin*) and point out the wrong of her statement, neither of us will be liable for the wrong. I know that in a lot of marriages today, if a husband disagrees with the wife, he is expected to take it up with her in private, but scripture says his responsibility is to correct it when it happens, not when it is most comfortable to address. Let's say the husband and wife are sitting around talking with their children. The wife makes a statement which the husband beleives to be in the wrong. In today's world, a lot of people would say he should take the issue up with his wife in private later in order to put forth a "united front" to the family. But if he let's it go until later, now he and the wife are both held responsible for the wrong and the children have been given the wrong information. If however, the husband contradicts her statement when it occurs, (and remember guys, you've already been admonished to be kind and benevolent, no need to be needlessly hurtful in how you address it) neither the husband nor the wife is found at fault and the children are given the right information. We are all human and none of us is perfect. It is better to admit to one's own imperfection and swallow a little pride, than to commit the wrong. I'd much rather my children see that we are not perfect but that we are humble enough to accept responsibility when we are in the wrong; that we are willing to swollow our own embarrassment rather than to foster a wrong.

Num 30:7 And her husband heard [it,] and held his peace at her in the day that he heard [it]: then her vows shall stand, and her bonds wherewith she bound her soul shall stand.

Num 30:13 Every vow, and every binding oath to afflict the soul, her husband may establish it, or her husband may make it void.

Num 30:8 But if her husband disallowed her on the day that he heard [it]; then he shall make her vow which she vowed, and that which she uttered with her lips, wherewith she bound her soul, of none effect: and the LORD shall forgive her.

Num 30:11 And her husband heard [it], and held his peace at her, [and] disallowed her not: then all her vows shall stand, and every bond wherewith she bound her soul shall stand.

Num 30:12 But if her husband hath utterly made them void on the day he heard [them; then] whatsoever proceeded out of her lips concerning her vows, or concerning the bond of her soul, shall not stand: her husband hath made them void; and the LORD shall forgive her

Num 30:14 But if her husband altogether hold his peace at her from day to day; then he establisheth all her vows, or all her bonds, which [are] upon her: he confirmeth them, because he held his peace at her in the day that he heard [them].

Husbands, you are given the authority within your home. From early on in Genesis, God says that the husband shall rule the home. Being "politically corect", many try and distort this basic principle, but it really is quite simple. The husband is to be the head of the wife and the home.
Gen 3:16	Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire [shall be] to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.
Eph 5:23	For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
Now that is NOT to say that the husband can or should play the overbearing tyrant, on the contrary, God says it is vital within the marriage, for the husband to be loving and kind; considerate of the wife's opinions and feelings. In our own home, I have the final say on matters but I also have the full weight of the responsibility of my decisions. The thoughts and opinions my wife has on any issue are not discounted, though I may or may not follow her opinion. When an issue arrises, we sit down and talk about it. I welcome her thoughts and opinions; encourage her to voice her feelings on the issue and why she see's it as she does. When I make the final decision, her thoughts on the matter are always a consideration. If my decision is contrary to her own opinion, I explain to her why my position is what it is; trying to help her understand what factors I have considered in coming to the decision.
Eph 5:33	Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife [see] that she reverence [her] husband.
1Cr 7:3	Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.
Col 3:19	Husbands, love [your] wives, and be not bitter against them.
Husbands, your's is the greater responsibility. Not only must you be conscious of your own personal relationship with God, but also, you are given the weight of the responsibility for your wife. I love my wife dearly. To hurt her or embarass her causes me physical, as well as, emotional pain but whether we are in public or private, if she makes a statement and I beleive her to be in the wrong, to say nothing means we will both he held responsible for it. But if, at the time of it's occurance, I correct her (any idea how UN-popular it might be to correct your wife in public ? grin) and point out the wrong of her statement, neither of us will be liable for the wrong. I know that in a lot of marriages today, if a husband disagrees with the wife, he is expected to take it up with her in private, but scripture says his responsibility is to correct it when it happens, not when it is most comfortable to address. Let's say the husband and wife are sitting around talking with their children. The wife makes a statement which the husband beleives to be in the wrong. In today's world, a lot of people would say he should take the issue up with his wife in private later in order to put forth a "united front" to the family. But if he let's it go until later, now he and the wife are both held responsible for the wrong and the children have been given the wrong information. If however, the husband contradicts her statement when it occurs, (and remember guys, you've already been admonished to be kind and benevolent, no need to be needlessly hurtful in how you address it) neither the husband nor the wife is found at fault and the children are given the right information. We are all human and none of us is perfect. It is better to admit to one's own imperfection and swallow a little pride, than to commit the wrong. I'd much rather my children see that we are not perfect but that we are humble enough to accept responsibility when we are in the wrong; that we are willing to swollow our own embarrassment rather than to foster a wrong.
Num 30:7	And her husband heard [it,] and held his peace at her in the day that he heard [it]: then her vows shall stand, and her bonds wherewith she bound her soul shall stand.
Num 30:13	Every vow, and every binding oath to afflict the soul, her husband may establish it, or her husband may make it void.
Num 30:8	But if her husband disallowed her on the day that he heard [it]; then he shall make her vow which she vowed, and that which she uttered with her lips, wherewith she bound her soul, of none effect: and the LORD shall forgive her.
Num 30:11	And her husband heard [it], and held his peace at her, [and] disallowed her not: then all her vows shall stand, and every bond wherewith she bound her soul shall stand.
Num 30:12	But if her husband hath utterly made them void on the day he heard [them; then] whatsoever proceeded out of her lips concerning her vows, or concerning the bond of her soul, shall not stand: her husband hath made them void; and the LORD shall forgive her
Num 30:14	But if her husband altogether hold his peace at her from day to day; then he establisheth all her vows, or all her bonds, which [are] upon her: he confirmeth them, because he held his peace at her in the day that he heard [them].