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The Successful Marriage - Wives

Wives, the description of your role, like that of your husbands, begins with the same verse in Genesis. The most common interpretation of "sorrow" refers to the pain of labor, but our Creator is forgiving and causes that pain and even it's memory, to fade quickly.

The rest of the verse says you will love your husband and place him above all others, and he is to be your ruler. You are to put his wants and needs first, and your own second. In today's society, that notion seems to fly against Equal Rights and today's concept of the modern independant woman. But consider this, if you've chosen your husband wisely, and he follows his proper role, he will consider your wants and needs and work hard to make sure they are better filled than if you were striving alone. True love is when you are each more concerned with the other's wants and needs than you own. (Hey, guys, pay attention to this part!) And guess what! By both of you being unselfish, you both receive more than you give, more than you would ask for! Through out the Bible, our Lord tells us that our acts will be returned to us many times, so wouldn't it seem a good idea to make our acts loving and unselfish?

Gen 3:16 Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire [shall be] to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.

As young girls you wanted to marry "Prince Charming" and get that "Happily Ever After" thing too. When you dream of your Prince, it isn't his parents you dream of, it's his qualities. You are looking for a man who can provide for you, who will treat you right, who will make you proud. Well, consider this: Why would a Prince settle for anything less than a Princess? How many Princes have you heard say "I want to marry a spoiled, selfish girl who will bring more trouble into my life.":? No, your Prince isn't looking for a spoiled, selfish heiress (or would be heiress), he is looking for a "helpmate", some one who will help him be successful, someone who will make him proud.

Prov 12:4 A wife of noble character is her husband's crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones.

Prov 31:10 Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.

So what is this princess he seeks? What makes a good wife who is far more valuable than "rubies"? Although she gives of herself willingly and allows him to rule, she is in some ways the stronger of the two. Her work may not need as much momentary physical strength, but her work day is much longer and there are no true vacations or days off. Reguardless of whether he provides for them by doing brain surgery for astronomical fees, or by asking "Do you want fries with that?", if she is managing their household properly they will grow more prosperous and comfortable. Why is a good wife more valuable than "rubies"? It's because "rubies" are soon spent and gone, but a good wife is an assett for life.

Prov 31:11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
Prov 31:12 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
Prov 31:13 She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.
Prov 31:14 She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar.
Prov 31:15 She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.
Prov 31:16 She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
Prov 31:17 She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.
Prov 31:18 She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.
Prov 31:19 She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
Prov 31:20 She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
Prov 31:21 She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
Prov 31:22 She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.
Prov 31:23 Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.
Prov 31:24 She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
Prov 31:25 Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.
Prov 31:26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
Prov 31:27 She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
Prov 31:28 Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.
Prov 31:29 Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.
Prov 31:30 Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.
Prov 31:31 Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.

That's a big job, but with such a wife, even a common man will become a Prince in appreciation for his Princess.

Ladies, beware of a common insidious trap. Don't let yourself fall into it.
Sex within marriage is often used as a bargaining tool or a special reward. For many couples, after the initial newness wears off, physical relations become almost non-existent. But the Bible states plainly

Col 3:18 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord.

I Cr 7:4 The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.

To use sex, the lack of, or the promise of as a tool or tactic within marriage is in direct disagreement with the scriptures. Physical relations are one of the blessings that accompany marriage.

Eph 5:22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord
Eph 5:23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
Eph 5:24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so [let] the wives [be] to their own husbands in every thing..
Eph 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

Wives, the description of your role, like that of your husbands, begins with the same verse in Genesis. The most common interpretation of "sorrow" refers to the pain of labor, but our Creator is forgiving and causes that pain and even it's memory, to fade quickly. The rest of the verse says you will love your husband and place him above all others, and he is to be your ruler. You are to put his wants and needs first, and your own second. In today's society, that notion seems to fly against Equal Rights and today's concept of the modern independant woman. But consider this, if you've chosen your husband wisely, and he follows his proper role, he will consider your wants and needs and work hard to make sure they are better filled than if you were striving alone. True love is when you are each more concerned with the other's wants and needs than you own. (Hey, guys, pay attention to this part!) And guess what! By both of you being unselfish, you both receive more than you give, more than you would ask for! Through out the Bible, our Lord tells us that our acts will be returned to us many times, so wouldn't it seem a good idea to make our acts loving and unselfish?
Gen 3:16	Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire [shall be] to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.
As young girls you wanted to marry "Prince Charming" and get that "Happily Ever After" thing too. When you dream of your Prince, it isn't his parents you dream of, it's his qualities. You are looking for a man who can provide for you, who will treat you right, who will make you proud. Well, consider this: Why would a Prince settle for anything less than a Princess? How many Princes have you heard say "I want to marry a spoiled, selfish girl who will bring more trouble into my life.":? No, your Prince isn't looking for a spoiled, selfish heiress (or would be heiress), he is looking for a "helpmate", some one who will help him be successful, someone who will make him proud.
Prov 12:4	A wife of noble character is her husband's crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones.
Prov 31:10	Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
So what is this princess he seeks? What makes a good wife who is far more valuable than "rubies"? Although she gives of herself willingly and allows him to rule, she is in some ways the stronger of the two. Her work may not need as much momentary physical strength, but her work day is much longer and there are no true vacations or days off. Reguardless of whether he provides for them by doing brain surgery for astronomical fees, or by asking "Do you want fries with that?", if she is managing their household properly they will grow more prosperous and comfortable. Why is a good wife more valuable than "rubies"? It's because "rubies" are soon spent and gone, but a good wife is an assett for life.
Prov 31:11	The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
Prov 31:12	She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
Prov 31:13	She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.
Prov 31:14	She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar.
Prov 31:15	She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.
Prov 31:16	She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
Prov 31:17	She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.
Prov 31:18	She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.
Prov 31:19	She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
Prov 31:20	She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
Prov 31:21	She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
Prov 31:22	She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.
Prov 31:23	Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.
Prov 31:24	She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
Prov 31:25	Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.
Prov 31:26	She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
Prov 31:27	She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
Prov 31:28	Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.
Prov 31:29	Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.
Prov 31:30	Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.
Prov 31:31	Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.
That's a big job, but with such a wife, even a common man will become a Prince in appreciation for his Princess. Ladies, beware of a common insidious trap. Don't let yourself fall into it. Sex within marriage is often used as a bargaining tool or a special reward. For many couples, after the initial newness wears off, physical relations become almost non-existent. But the Bible states plainly
Col 3:18	Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord.
I Cr 7:4	The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.
To use sex, the lack of, or the promise of as a tool or tactic within marriage is in direct disagreement with the scriptures. Physical relations are one of the blessings that accompany marriage.
Eph 5:22	Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord
Eph 5:23	For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
Eph 5:24	Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so [let] the wives [be] to their own husbands in every thing..
Eph 5:25	Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;